Let’s get one thing straight.
All relationships are rocky from time to time.
It’s a question of degree.
But what is it in particular that might cause tension in this pairing?
Let’s look at some of the reasons why INTJ INFP relationships might struggle.
One of the first things you’ll say when describing your INFP partner is how nonjudgmental they are.
Their open-mindedness is incredibly refreshing, and your conversation will often be very smooth and free-flowing.
INFPs are also known to possess a dark streak that can surprise you, as they punctuate their generally positive and upbeat demeanor with some witty black one-liners.
Their complex personality will keep you intrigued from the outset.
Success At Work
INFPs are often highly competent in a particular area of life, and this often translates into great success in the working world.
You might find achieving a work-life balance in your INTJ INFP relationship difficult to maintain, which may grind you over time.
If you are prone to envy, you may even start to resent your INFP partner’s success and become bitter.
INTJs have a high idea of themselves but sometimes miss the wood for the trees when it comes to making money or career progression.
It’s important to check yourself and touch base with your INFP partner if you start feeling unhappy about any relationship imbalance.
Your INFP partner will generally be very supportive and genuinely like seeing others do well.
He or she will usually be more than happy to sit down with you and examine some of the reasons why you might not be living up to your own potential.
Social Energy Mismatch
Many INFPs can come across as extroverts due to their natural ability to engage in flowing and interesting conversations.
They usually have very upbeat and positive attitudes, especially when engaging in activities they love.
If you are a more Introverted INTJ, you could feel left out or uncomfortable in social situations while your INFP partner seems to take center stage at times.
Here again, we see a potential mismatch in an INTJ INFP relationship.
If you are going to make this romantic partnership survive, you’ll have to decide to work hard to overcome your weaknesses and learn to grow as an individual.
At the same time, this could prove a rewarding dynamic as you are encouraged to come out of your comfort zone and develop a different side of you.
With other MBTI Extraverted personality types you would find it very difficult to maintain a high social presence.
Indeed it would be unsustainable for you over the long run.
However, your INFP partner is not a natural extrovert, even though they may have some of those tendencies.
This means that you’re not as likely to burn out, which is important to remember.
INTJ INFP Relationships: An Emotional Rollercoaster
At times during your INTJ INFP relationship, you may feel as though you’re walking on eggshells.
If your INFP partner feels they’re right about something, it can seem impossible to say or do anything to show them the error of their ways.
You might experience an explosion of emotion as the full wrath of your INFP partner falls upon you for seemingly no apparent reason.
You might tire of the excessive emotional dramatics which erupt over small things.
As an INTJ personality type, you could learn to let it wash over you, and give your INFP partner the space they need to calm down.
The worst thing you could do would be to try engaging with them while they are in this state.
It is better to sit down with your INFP partner early on in your relationship and explain that you don’t think this is an acceptable way for an adult to behave.
If they do not make an effort to change, it is your fault for staying.
More mature INFPs will often have learned to channel their powerful emotional reserves into more productive outlets.
This could explain their tendency towards success in the workplace.
Major Compatibility Issue: Taking Things Personally
You may tire of the way you have to carefully consider your words when offering feedback during your INFP INTJ relationship.
INFPs are known for their tendency to take things personally.
This is a critical factor in any relationship.
How can you resolve the conflict productively that arises from the natural differences you both exhibit as individuals?
It can often depend on the INFP’s upbringing and how they learned to control their natural emotional behavior growing up.
Often you may be asked for advice by your INFP partner.
You will think about it in a considered and deep way, as INTJs are prone to doing.
You’ll then offer your advice to your INFP personality type partner, only for them to dismiss it out of hand.
You’ll ask why they are refusing to consider your advice, but they will only offer some meaningless emotional reason.
I’ve personally encountered this behavior, and I find it incredibly frustrating.
I often have to remind myself that this is just how INFPs are.
Remember also that INFPs are remarkable listeners who listen to you so that you feel like you could tell them anything and everything without feeling judged by them.
This is an incredibly rare attribute, and it might go some way to compensate for some of the rampant emotionalism that can accompany INFP INTJ relationships.
Ultimately, the success of this relationship will depend on how much each partner is willing to change and compromise.
In the presence of a healthy level of respect for one another, this relationship will prove rewarding and it will endure.
You both will have a huge amount in common and just enough to properly complement each other.
You will have to adapt to their frequent emotionalism but you will benefit from their ability to listen to you and properly understand you.
What are your thoughts? Are you in a successful and thriving relationship with an INFP? Share your comments below.