{"id":41,"date":"2017-05-28T13:38:01","date_gmt":"2017-05-28T13:38:01","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/intjsecrets.com\/?p=41"},"modified":"2023-09-23T17:09:13","modified_gmt":"2023-09-23T21:09:13","slug":"intj-intj-relationships","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/intjsecrets.com\/intj-intj-relationships\/","title":{"rendered":"INTJ INTJ Relationships: Guide For Robots In Love"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p>Ok, using the word<i>&nbsp;robots<\/i>&nbsp;is a bit much.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Or is it?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Have you ever known INTJs who used this word to describe themselves?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Are you an INTJ who describes yourself this way in the world of romance?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Brace yourself:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>What would happen if we were to combine two of the most analytical, introverted personality types, and create a monster:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The INTJ INTJ Relationship.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<div id=\"ez-toc-container\" class=\"ez-toc-v2_0_63 counter-hierarchy ez-toc-counter ez-toc-grey ez-toc-container-direction\">\n<div class=\"ez-toc-title-container\">\n<p class=\"ez-toc-title \" >Table of Contents<\/p>\n<span class=\"ez-toc-title-toggle\"><a href=\"#\" class=\"ez-toc-pull-right ez-toc-btn ez-toc-btn-xs ez-toc-btn-default ez-toc-toggle\" aria-label=\"Toggle Table of Content\"><span class=\"ez-toc-js-icon-con\"><span class=\"\"><span class=\"eztoc-hide\" style=\"display:none;\">Toggle<\/span><span class=\"ez-toc-icon-toggle-span\"><svg style=\"fill: #999;color:#999\" xmlns=\"http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg\" class=\"list-377408\" width=\"20px\" height=\"20px\" viewBox=\"0 0 24 24\" fill=\"none\"><path d=\"M6 6H4v2h2V6zm14 0H8v2h12V6zM4 11h2v2H4v-2zm16 0H8v2h12v-2zM4 16h2v2H4v-2zm16 0H8v2h12v-2z\" fill=\"currentColor\"><\/path><\/svg><svg style=\"fill: #999;color:#999\" class=\"arrow-unsorted-368013\" xmlns=\"http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg\" width=\"10px\" height=\"10px\" viewBox=\"0 0 24 24\" version=\"1.2\" baseProfile=\"tiny\"><path d=\"M18.2 9.3l-6.2-6.3-6.2 6.3c-.2.2-.3.4-.3.7s.1.5.3.7c.2.2.4.3.7.3h11c.3 0 .5-.1.7-.3.2-.2.3-.5.3-.7s-.1-.5-.3-.7zM5.8 14.7l6.2 6.3 6.2-6.3c.2-.2.3-.5.3-.7s-.1-.5-.3-.7c-.2-.2-.4-.3-.7-.3h-11c-.3 0-.5.1-.7.3-.2.2-.3.5-.3.7s.1.5.3.7z\"\/><\/svg><\/span><\/span><\/span><\/a><\/span><\/div>\n<nav><ul class='ez-toc-list ez-toc-list-level-1 eztoc-toggle-hide-by-default' ><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-1\" href=\"https:\/\/intjsecrets.com\/intj-intj-relationships\/#INTJ_INTJ_Relationships_A_Complete_Guide\" title=\"INTJ INTJ Relationships: A Complete Guide\">INTJ INTJ Relationships: A Complete Guide<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-2\" href=\"https:\/\/intjsecrets.com\/intj-intj-relationships\/#Trapped_In_Our_Heads\" title=\"Trapped In Our Heads\">Trapped In Our Heads<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-3\" href=\"https:\/\/intjsecrets.com\/intj-intj-relationships\/#Familiarity_Breeds_Contempt\" title=\"Familiarity Breeds Contempt\">Familiarity Breeds Contempt<\/a><\/li><\/ul><\/nav><\/div>\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"INTJ_INTJ_Relationships_A_Complete_Guide\"><\/span>INTJ INTJ Relationships: A Complete Guide<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-embed is-provider-tumblr wp-block-embed-tumblr\"><div class=\"wp-block-embed__wrapper\">\nhttp:\/\/25.media.tumblr.com\/c8a4da0cd442109d896e6fafbe1b969f\/tumblr_n0zbyavTYS1s4osc1o2_500.gif\n<\/div><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p>All joking aside, is it really as impossible as it sounds?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Here\u2019s the deal: INTJs are notoriously rigid in their perspectives. They arrive at their conclusions in life after careful analysis and evaluation of experiences.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The INTJ spends considerable time in their own space, thinking, reflecting, and planning.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The INTJ thrives on escaping to isolation as much as necessary. Comfort and the ability to recharge can be found in a quiet place.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>This is where the INTJ can find peace.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>It is this dogged Introversion trait that defines the INTJ most.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>We\u2019re talking about INTJ romance and relationships in this article.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>What sets sparks flying is attraction.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Here is where we might encounter the first obstacle: differences in perspective.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>As we\u2019ve already seen, the INTJ arrives at their worldly opinions after careful deliberation.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>It is very difficult for an INTJ to accept the opinions of others when there is a clash of ideas.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>On a date with another INTJ, the INTJ will find even a slight difference of opinion impossible to let go.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The date might turn from initial potent chemistry to<a href=\"https:\/\/intjsecrets.com\/blog\/intj-relationship-problems\/\" data-type=\"URL\" data-id=\"https:\/\/intjsecrets.com\/blog\/intj-relationship-problems\/\"> impending disaster<\/a>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The reason for this is simple: the INTJ finds it very hard to respect different perspectives on matters of principle and logic.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>This inability to share a common perspective on abstract matters can kill the overall attraction in the dating process.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>So, a slight difference can manifest in a breakdown of the budding relationship.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Now, imagine this INTJ feature with not one, but two <a href=\"https:\/\/intjsecrets.com\/blog\/intj-female-dating\/\" data-type=\"post\" data-id=\"195\">INTJs dating each other<\/a>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The effect is multiplied and the mental intensity is anathema to building attraction.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Trapped_In_Our_Heads\"><\/span>Trapped In Our Heads<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image wp-image-81 size-full\">\n<figure class=\"aligncenter\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1000\" height=\"618\" src=\"https:\/\/intjsecrets.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/05\/INTJ-mind.jpg\" alt=\"INTJ mind\" class=\"wp-image-81\" srcset=\"https:\/\/intjsecrets.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/05\/INTJ-mind.jpg 1000w, https:\/\/intjsecrets.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/05\/INTJ-mind-300x185.jpg 300w, https:\/\/intjsecrets.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/05\/INTJ-mind-768x475.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 1000px) 100vw, 1000px\" \/><figcaption class=\"wp-element-caption\">How an INTJ mind functions<\/figcaption><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n<p>Why won\u2019t the INTJ leave it, forget about it, and move on to something else?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>It\u2019s in our nature not to.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Look, we\u2019re incredibly intellectual people.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>We thrive on Introverted Intuition, on the abstract, on ideas.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>We dwell in the realm of the mind.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Here we meet another obstacle in a potential INTJ INTJ relationship: <a href=\"https:\/\/www.choosingtherapy.com\/dating-an-introvert\/\" target=\"_blank\" data-type=\"URL\" data-id=\"https:\/\/www.choosingtherapy.com\/dating-an-introvert\/\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">the Introvert\/Introvert conundrum<\/a>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Keirsey described how opposites generally attract in relationships; opposites in the sense of key personality preferences.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>One of these is the Introversion\/Extraversion function.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The INTJ personality type, in theory, <em>needs<\/em> the balancing effect of an Extravert to even out their natural inclinations towards solitude.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>An Extravert adds a more outward-facing social perspective to a romantic relationship that bolsters the INTJ\u2019s natural weaknesses.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>What is the significance of this?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Direction.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>As functioning human beings, we need to eat, build shelter and defenses, and interact with one another.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Ideas and planning are essential, but <em>doing things<\/em> is critical.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>In life, the INTJ type might have a tendency towards overthinking and under-acting.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>In a relationship where both partners share this trait, the relationship is liable to go nowhere.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Stagnation is death to romance.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Sure, INTJ INTJ relationships might share a great degree of comfort, understanding, and perhaps even similarly shared world perspectives.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>However, this comfort might cause the INTJ couple to become too used to one another, and too predictable in each other\u2019s eyes.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Familiarity_Breeds_Contempt\"><\/span>Familiarity Breeds Contempt<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1000\" height=\"668\" src=\"https:\/\/intjsecrets.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/05\/INTJ-INTJ-Relationship-Problems.jpg\" alt=\"INTJ INTJ Relationship Problems\" class=\"wp-image-82\" srcset=\"https:\/\/intjsecrets.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/05\/INTJ-INTJ-Relationship-Problems.jpg 1000w, https:\/\/intjsecrets.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/05\/INTJ-INTJ-Relationship-Problems-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/intjsecrets.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/05\/INTJ-INTJ-Relationship-Problems-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 1000px) 100vw, 1000px\" \/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p>Taking your partner for granted is a drawback in every relationship.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>You have to work hard to maintain space, mystery and each other\u2019s identity in the relationship unit.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The INTJ INTJ couple might struggle particularly here.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>When you are a capable listener and able to catalogue information efficiently, you tend to learn the ways, thoughts and behavior of people. INTJs excel at this.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>This is a detrimental ability in a relationship.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Between two INTJs, boredom will creep in. A certain <em>same-old, same-old<\/em> develops and slowly the intense, heady bond begins to show cracks.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Add to this the INTJ\u2019s authoritative or commanding traits and conflict is a predictable consequence.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>INTJs trap each other in their worlds of abstraction and logic.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Again, let\u2019s touch on Keirsey\u2019s understanding and add one more function.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>An Extraverted-Feeling partner would solve the aforementioned INTJ relationship downsides.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>This Feeling trait might well act as a counterweight to the logical and structured brain of the INTJ.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The addition of emotion into the equation would add a degree of variability and a sense of the unknown into the world of the INTJ\u2019s relationship with this Feeling partner.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The INTJ personality type needs this challenge and this, as it were, emotion-problem that would need to be constantly solved.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The INTJ would be kept guessing and the typical relationship ennui would be kept away longer and longer.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>By now we truly understand the importance of balance in a relationship.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>It is this writer\u2019s opinion that the achieving of balance in the realm of an INTJ INTJ relationship would be both difficult to achieve and difficult to maintain.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>There is too much dominance in key personality areas for there to exist a healthy balance.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>But let us finally envision a situation where balance could be achieved.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>In an INTJ INTJ relationship where a high degree of trust exists, a dynamic involving a more dominant INTJ leading a more submissive INTJ could, in theory, work.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>An understanding of each other\u2019s natures, a deep respect for each other, and the willingness to accept specific roles could all come together to create a healthy, functioning relationship.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>It\u2019s also important to stress that personality types should function only as a guide when it comes to searching for romantic partners and relationships.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>There is wide variation within individuals and this must be the overarching perspective.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>And INTJs, especially, must understand that a degree of compromise is essential when becoming involved in a relationship.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>What are your thoughts about INTJ relationship compatibility? <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>P.S. 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