{"id":195,"date":"2018-04-30T07:48:44","date_gmt":"2018-04-30T07:48:44","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/intjsecrets.com\/?p=195"},"modified":"2023-05-30T13:01:53","modified_gmt":"2023-05-30T13:01:53","slug":"intj-female-dating","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/intjsecrets.com\/intj-female-dating\/","title":{"rendered":"7 Unique INTJ Female Dating Tips For Ambitious Women"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p>When it comes to the world of love, we INTJs have a pretty difficult time. It\u2019s not that we\u2019re unlikeable, but INTJ female dating is just more complicated.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>For starters, we\u2019re already known as \u201crobots\u201d for our lack of showing how we truly feel. Obviously, when it comes to meeting someone new, this can be an issue. If they really don\u2019t know how we feel, how can they want to pursue us?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>For that very reason, we need some dating tips specific to INTJs and just how we can navigate the dating world with a lot more ease.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Here are some of the top INTJ female dating tips that\u2019ll help you meet someone great and make him yours.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<div id=\"ez-toc-container\" class=\"ez-toc-v2_0_64 counter-hierarchy ez-toc-counter ez-toc-grey ez-toc-container-direction\">\n<div class=\"ez-toc-title-container\">\n<p class=\"ez-toc-title \" >Table of Contents<\/p>\n<span class=\"ez-toc-title-toggle\"><a href=\"#\" class=\"ez-toc-pull-right ez-toc-btn ez-toc-btn-xs ez-toc-btn-default ez-toc-toggle\" aria-label=\"Toggle Table of Content\"><span class=\"ez-toc-js-icon-con\"><span class=\"\"><span class=\"eztoc-hide\" style=\"display:none;\">Toggle<\/span><span class=\"ez-toc-icon-toggle-span\"><svg style=\"fill: #999;color:#999\" xmlns=\"http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg\" class=\"list-377408\" width=\"20px\" height=\"20px\" viewBox=\"0 0 24 24\" fill=\"none\"><path d=\"M6 6H4v2h2V6zm14 0H8v2h12V6zM4 11h2v2H4v-2zm16 0H8v2h12v-2zM4 16h2v2H4v-2zm16 0H8v2h12v-2z\" fill=\"currentColor\"><\/path><\/svg><svg style=\"fill: #999;color:#999\" class=\"arrow-unsorted-368013\" xmlns=\"http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg\" width=\"10px\" height=\"10px\" viewBox=\"0 0 24 24\" version=\"1.2\" baseProfile=\"tiny\"><path d=\"M18.2 9.3l-6.2-6.3-6.2 6.3c-.2.2-.3.4-.3.7s.1.5.3.7c.2.2.4.3.7.3h11c.3 0 .5-.1.7-.3.2-.2.3-.5.3-.7s-.1-.5-.3-.7zM5.8 14.7l6.2 6.3 6.2-6.3c.2-.2.3-.5.3-.7s-.1-.5-.3-.7c-.2-.2-.4-.3-.7-.3h-11c-.3 0-.5.1-.7.3-.2.2-.3.5-.3.7s.1.5.3.7z\"\/><\/svg><\/span><\/span><\/span><\/a><\/span><\/div>\n<nav><ul class='ez-toc-list ez-toc-list-level-1 eztoc-toggle-hide-by-default' ><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-1\" href=\"https:\/\/intjsecrets.com\/intj-female-dating\/#1_Talk_about_how_you_feel\" title=\"1. Talk about how you feel\">1. Talk about how you feel<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-2\" href=\"https:\/\/intjsecrets.com\/intj-female-dating\/#2_Remember_the_little_things\" title=\"2. Remember the little things\">2. Remember the little things<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-3\" href=\"https:\/\/intjsecrets.com\/intj-female-dating\/#3_Ditch_the_planning\" title=\"3. Ditch the planning\">3. Ditch the planning<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-4\" href=\"https:\/\/intjsecrets.com\/intj-female-dating\/#4_SHOW_him_how_you_feel\" title=\"4. SHOW him how you feel\">4. SHOW him how you feel<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-5\" href=\"https:\/\/intjsecrets.com\/intj-female-dating\/#5_Stop_interviewing_your_date\" title=\"5. Stop interviewing your date\">5. Stop interviewing your date<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-6\" href=\"https:\/\/intjsecrets.com\/intj-female-dating\/#6_Stay_humble_and_avoid_criticism\" title=\"6. Stay humble and avoid criticism\">6. Stay humble and avoid criticism<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-7\" href=\"https:\/\/intjsecrets.com\/intj-female-dating\/#7_Remember_To_Have_Fun\" title=\"7. Remember To Have Fun\">7. Remember To Have Fun<\/a><\/li><\/ul><\/nav><\/div>\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"1_Talk_about_how_you_feel\"><\/span>1. Talk about how you feel<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>I get it. This one is a bit tricky. <a href=\"https:\/\/intjsecrets.com\/blog\/intj-intj-relationships\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">As INTJs<\/a>, we tend to be outwardly cold even though our insides are buzzing with a ton of different emotions.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The thing is, it\u2019s hard to describe how we\u2019re feeling. We\u2019re not that great at articulating what\u2019s going on inside and that can lead our dates to believe that we don\u2019t have an interest in him romantically, even if our brain is screaming about how much we like him.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>You\u2019ll have to learn how to do this. Something as simple as, \u201cI\u2019m having a great time,\u201d can go a long way when you\u2019re extremely excited to be out with him.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>It might be hard and you\u2019re probably not used to it, but just tell your date that you like him. Make sure he knows how you feel or he could end up assuming you feel nothing, like the robot your personality type is so often confused for.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"2_Remember_the_little_things\"><\/span>2. Remember the little things<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>Sentimentality isn\u2019t exactly an INTJ\u2019s forte. We tend to think big-picture and aren\u2019t really interested in trivial nonsense.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>But it\u2019s really only trivial to us. The truth is, those little things are what matter most to other people.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Even if you think <a href=\"https:\/\/charlotte.axios.com\/78364\/valentines-day-is-a-dumb-holiday-and-you-know-it\/\" target=\"_blank\" data-type=\"URL\" data-id=\"https:\/\/charlotte.axios.com\/78364\/valentines-day-is-a-dumb-holiday-and-you-know-it\/\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">Valentine\u2019s Day is dumb<\/a> or flowers are pointless, they mean a lot to other people.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Putting your own INTJ female dating preferences aside to think about the little things that could make your partner happy can really bring you a step closer to him. So go do that cheesy date night you don\u2019t really have an interest in.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Bring him a candy bar or order pizza to his place even when you\u2019re not there. Those little things can mean a hell of a lot more than you think. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"3_Ditch_the_planning\"><\/span>3. Ditch the planning<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>Having a game plan for every single moment of your date isn\u2019t romantic. It\u2019s rather psychotic, actually. That\u2019s how other people see it, at least.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Although it might seem perfectly practical to put together a date-day agenda, it\u2019ll seem a little anal.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>And also controlling. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Those aren\u2019t exactly positive qualities in a date even though they may be positive in your life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Dates are meant to be fun and spontaneous. Let the evening carry you where it\u2019ll go. Put your planner hat away for just a few hours and let yourself have fun.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>There\u2019s no need to rush your way through an evening just to make sure you get to dinner at precisely 6 o\u2019clock.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Sit back, relax, and let things happen as they do. Your partner will be grateful for it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"4_SHOW_him_how_you_feel\"><\/span>4. SHOW him how you feel<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>Since words can be hard for INTJs, especially when feelings are involved, you may need to focus on how you treat the other person.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Instead of telling him how much you appreciate him, bring his favorite candy along on your next date. It\u2019s all about making him feel your affection through the things you choose to do.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Sitting a little bit closer while on a date can be one sign that you\u2019re into that person, even if you can\u2019t say so with words.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>You can even offer to pay, order him a drink, or get dessert on the way home to spend more time with him.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The more he feels like you\u2019re into him, the better.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"5_Stop_interviewing_your_date\"><\/span>5. Stop interviewing your date<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-large\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1024\" height=\"536\" src=\"https:\/\/intjsecrets.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/09\/intj-female-dating-overview-interview-1024x536.png\" alt=\"intj female dating scenario\" class=\"wp-image-463\" srcset=\"https:\/\/intjsecrets.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/09\/intj-female-dating-overview-interview-1024x536.png 1024w, https:\/\/intjsecrets.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/09\/intj-female-dating-overview-interview-300x157.png 300w, https:\/\/intjsecrets.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/09\/intj-female-dating-overview-interview-768x402.png 768w, https:\/\/intjsecrets.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/09\/intj-female-dating-overview-interview.png 1200w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 1024px) 100vw, 1024px\" \/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p>A date is not an interview. That being said, us INTJs have a habit of asking questions like they are one.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>We ask question after question in order to assess if he\u2019s good match for us. While that may seem logical to us, it\u2019s actually harmful.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>You\u2019re not letting <a href=\"https:\/\/intjsecrets.com\/blog\/intj-estj-relationships\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">chemistry breathe<\/a> between the two of you that way. Instead, you\u2019re putting your date on the spot and making him think that you\u2019re scrutinizing him.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Your \u201clogical\u201d planning in this case comes across as cold and calculating to those who don\u2019t get it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Make an effort to avoid so many questions in a row. Make small talk. Let your date talk and get to know you. Flirt a bit and put thoughts of the future aside if only for a little while so you can just be together.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"6_Stay_humble_and_avoid_criticism\"><\/span>6. Stay humble and avoid criticism<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>One thing we INTJs do that can be a bit harsh is to criticize. In our minds, we\u2019re only helping.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>We\u2019re trying to make the other person\u2019s life better by offering advice. But what we call advice can often be seen as insulting.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Even if you want to say something about how he could probably reach his goals more quickly if he stopped playing so many video games, don\u2019t.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Instead, offer a compliment about his ambition and how it\u2019s admirable to have such lofty goals. This will make you seem more appealing and less of a jerk to him.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Nobody wants to be told what they should be doing differently, especially on a first or second date with someone they don\u2019t really know that well.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Keep your lips zipped until it comes to kissing time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"7_Remember_To_Have_Fun\"><\/span>7. Remember To Have Fun<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>My final INTJ female dating tip is probably the hardest. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>But it is the truth: sometimes we get so caught up in our planning and brainstorming that we forget to stop and smell the roses.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Dating for an INTJ woman can be frustrating, nerve-wracking, and fairly difficult. But when you meet someone you click with, that relationship is incredibly worthwhile. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Dating as a female INTJ personality type is insanely difficult. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>We\u2019re often misunderstood, and for that reason, it\u2019s important to remember these INTJ female dating tips so you can really get the most out of date.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>When it comes to the world of love, we INTJs have a pretty difficult time. It\u2019s not that we\u2019re unlikeable, but INTJ female dating is just more complicated. For starters, we\u2019re already known as \u201crobots\u201d for our lack of showing how we truly feel. 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