{"id":18,"date":"2017-05-28T13:38:38","date_gmt":"2017-05-28T13:38:38","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/intjsecrets.com\/?p=18"},"modified":"2023-05-30T12:56:48","modified_gmt":"2023-05-30T12:56:48","slug":"intj-enfp-relationship","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/intjsecrets.com\/intj-enfp-relationship\/","title":{"rendered":"INTJ ENFP Relationships: A Match Made In Heaven?"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p>Let\u2019s face it: dating and relationships can be difficult areas for INTJs.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>We find social situations draining and sometimes hard to endure.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>What if there was a personality type that was the perfect match for you?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>That special person who is strong where you are weak, and just the right number of personality characteristics to match yours?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>As an INTJ, you need to know about how an INTJ ENFP relationship could be the most meaningful thing to ever happen to you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>But first, we need to understand why finding an ENFP partner could change your life forever.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<div id=\"ez-toc-container\" class=\"ez-toc-v2_0_63 counter-hierarchy ez-toc-counter ez-toc-grey ez-toc-container-direction\">\n<div class=\"ez-toc-title-container\">\n<p class=\"ez-toc-title \" >Table of Contents<\/p>\n<span class=\"ez-toc-title-toggle\"><a href=\"#\" class=\"ez-toc-pull-right ez-toc-btn ez-toc-btn-xs ez-toc-btn-default ez-toc-toggle\" aria-label=\"Toggle Table of Content\"><span class=\"ez-toc-js-icon-con\"><span class=\"\"><span class=\"eztoc-hide\" style=\"display:none;\">Toggle<\/span><span class=\"ez-toc-icon-toggle-span\"><svg style=\"fill: #999;color:#999\" xmlns=\"http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg\" class=\"list-377408\" width=\"20px\" height=\"20px\" viewBox=\"0 0 24 24\" fill=\"none\"><path d=\"M6 6H4v2h2V6zm14 0H8v2h12V6zM4 11h2v2H4v-2zm16 0H8v2h12v-2zM4 16h2v2H4v-2zm16 0H8v2h12v-2z\" fill=\"currentColor\"><\/path><\/svg><svg style=\"fill: #999;color:#999\" class=\"arrow-unsorted-368013\" xmlns=\"http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg\" width=\"10px\" height=\"10px\" viewBox=\"0 0 24 24\" version=\"1.2\" baseProfile=\"tiny\"><path d=\"M18.2 9.3l-6.2-6.3-6.2 6.3c-.2.2-.3.4-.3.7s.1.5.3.7c.2.2.4.3.7.3h11c.3 0 .5-.1.7-.3.2-.2.3-.5.3-.7s-.1-.5-.3-.7zM5.8 14.7l6.2 6.3 6.2-6.3c.2-.2.3-.5.3-.7s-.1-.5-.3-.7c-.2-.2-.4-.3-.7-.3h-11c-.3 0-.5.1-.7.3-.2.2-.3.5-.3.7s.1.5.3.7z\"\/><\/svg><\/span><\/span><\/span><\/a><\/span><\/div>\n<nav><ul class='ez-toc-list ez-toc-list-level-1 eztoc-toggle-hide-by-default' ><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-1\" href=\"https:\/\/intjsecrets.com\/intj-enfp-relationship\/#INTJ_ENFP_Relationships_Everything_You_Need_To_Know\" title=\"INTJ ENFP Relationships: Everything You Need To Know\">INTJ ENFP Relationships: Everything You Need To Know<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-2\" href=\"https:\/\/intjsecrets.com\/intj-enfp-relationship\/#Spontaneity_vs_Structure\" title=\"Spontaneity vs. Structure\">Spontaneity vs. Structure<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-3\" href=\"https:\/\/intjsecrets.com\/intj-enfp-relationship\/#INTJ_ENFP_Relationship_Pitfalls\" title=\"INTJ ENFP Relationship Pitfalls\">INTJ ENFP Relationship Pitfalls<\/a><\/li><\/ul><\/nav><\/div>\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"INTJ_ENFP_Relationships_Everything_You_Need_To_Know\"><\/span>INTJ ENFP Relationships: Everything You Need To Know<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image\">\n<figure class=\"aligncenter\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"300\" height=\"225\" src=\"https:\/\/intjsecrets.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/05\/do-opposites-attract-300x225.jpg\" alt=\"do opposites attract\" class=\"wp-image-75\" srcset=\"https:\/\/intjsecrets.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/05\/do-opposites-attract-300x225.jpg 300w, https:\/\/intjsecrets.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/05\/do-opposites-attract.jpg 500w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 300px) 100vw, 300px\" \/><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n<p>Do opposites attract? Or do like-minded people attract each other?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>My opinion: both.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Let me explain why.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The dominant function of both an INTJ and an ENFP is Intuition. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><em>(Introverted Intuition and Extraverted Intuition, to be precise).<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>This allows both to come together in a way where they can easily understand each other, because they fundamentally perceive the world in the same intuitive way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The auxiliary and tertiary functions are also shared, albeit in a separate order.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The INTJ will be more aware of their preference for patterns, logic and structure, whereas the ENFP will be more in touch with their feelings and emotions.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>This is where the magic happens.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Both INTJ and ENFP have the same deep perception of life and reality, but they deal with their perceptions in similar ways, with a slighter greater or lesser focus on emotions and reason.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>This will often lead to intense, natural chemistry, and long, intellectual, rambling conversations.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The INTJ approaches with their focus on depth of a particular subject, while the ENFP applies their broad understanding of other areas, seemingly tangentially related.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>This complimentary dynamic carries over into other areas of the relationship.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>INTJs can experience socializing as a tiring, meaningless, and sometimes hard to appreciate series of rituals.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>An INTJ would much rather stay home or spend time with a smaller amount of people in a more quiet environment.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Here, an ENFP can help to bring the INTJ out of their shell, and encourage them to get out more.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Regardless of our preferences, we are social animals, and INTJs know this deep down.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/intjsecrets.com\/blog\/how-to-tell-if-an-enfp-likes-you\/\" data-type=\"post\" data-id=\"182\">A loving ENFP <\/a>can introduce this world of social interaction to the INTJ in a caring, encouraging way, allowing them to experience the benefits of developing new relationships and networking.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The breadth of topics on which an ENFP can talk can seem overwhelming during a conversation with an INTJ type. This is where the INTJ can assist.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The ENFP personality type can gain structure and an understanding of applying logic and rationale when the INTJ offers insight into the topic at hand.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>This can benefit the ENFP hugely, creating order out of what sometimes amounts to chaos in the mind of the passionate and overflowing mind of the ENFP.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Spontaneity_vs_Structure\"><\/span>Spontaneity vs. Structure<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image\">\n<figure class=\"aligncenter\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"500\" height=\"335\" src=\"https:\/\/intjsecrets.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/05\/Spontaneity-vs.-Structure.jpg\" alt=\"Spontaneity vs. Structure\" class=\"wp-image-76\" srcset=\"https:\/\/intjsecrets.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/05\/Spontaneity-vs.-Structure.jpg 500w, https:\/\/intjsecrets.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/05\/Spontaneity-vs.-Structure-300x201.jpg 300w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 500px) 100vw, 500px\" \/><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n<p>The appeal of an ENFP to an INTJ lies in their exciting, open-minded, <a href=\"https:\/\/www.bustle.com\/articles\/139771-6-ways-to-be-more-spontaneous-in-your-relationship\" target=\"_blank\" data-type=\"URL\" data-id=\"https:\/\/www.bustle.com\/articles\/139771-6-ways-to-be-more-spontaneous-in-your-relationship\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">spontaneous<\/a>, and care-free attitude.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>However, at first appearance, the ENFP can appear as somewhat of an enigma, and this mystery is what can cause a deep initial attraction in the INTJ.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The indirect, people-oriented approach of the ENFP can puzzle the direct and logic-minded INTJ.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>It might only be later in the relationship that the INTJ can really grasp who the ENFP truly is, and this enduring uncertainty <a href=\"https:\/\/intjsecrets.com\/blog\/intj-in-love-signs\/\" data-type=\"post\" data-id=\"209\">creates intense interest<\/a> in the calculating mind of the INTJ.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>If there is one thing lacking in the INTJ&#8217;s structured life, it is spontaneity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>And what is missing in the life of the ENFP?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>You guessed it: structure.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>What makes the ENFP mysterious to the INTJ is something similar: first appearances can be misleading.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>An ENFP may be quick to dismiss an INTJ based on their reserved, aloof demeanor, but a closer inspection reveals a strong, grounded analyst who has their life organized and a rare depth of character.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The ENFP knows deep down that a sense of structure and coherence is often lacking in their life, and they sense salvation in the methodical nature of the INTJ.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>With the care and attention that the INTJ loves to give while teaching and helping those whom they love and value, the ENFP can learn to understand how the INTJ thinks and can absorb the fundamentals of planning and structuring.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Each passing day that the ENFP spends with the INTJ brings new discoveries and can bring what seems like a never-ending adventure.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The depth of the INTJ is so attractive to the mind and spirit of the ENFP.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"INTJ_ENFP_Relationship_Pitfalls\"><\/span>INTJ ENFP Relationship Pitfalls<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1000\" height=\"708\" src=\"https:\/\/intjsecrets.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/05\/INTJ-ENFP-Relationships-Pitfalls.jpg\" alt=\"INTJ ENFP Relationships Pitfalls\" class=\"wp-image-77\" srcset=\"https:\/\/intjsecrets.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/05\/INTJ-ENFP-Relationships-Pitfalls.jpg 1000w, https:\/\/intjsecrets.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/05\/INTJ-ENFP-Relationships-Pitfalls-300x212.jpg 300w, https:\/\/intjsecrets.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/05\/INTJ-ENFP-Relationships-Pitfalls-768x544.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 1000px) 100vw, 1000px\" \/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p>So what\u2019s the catch?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Is this truly a match made in heaven?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The key here is <em>balance<\/em>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The chemistry that holds the INTJ and ENFP together is intense but delicate.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Everybody knows that compromise is important in a relationship.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>If either partner is too dependent on their need for solitude or socializing, friction will result and a major weakness in the dynamics of these personalities will expose itself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><em>Communication.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Already, we have seen that the ENFP is more in touch with their feelings and emotions.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>They tend to want to speak their thoughts aloud to process and deal with some of life\u2019s difficulties. Feeling understood is critical for an ENFP.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Conversely, the INTJ personality type is more likely to process their emotions internally, and reflect quietly on their problems. This sense of personal independence is highly valued by the INTJ.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>This fundamental difference in dealing with personal problems can be the undoing of an INTJ ENFP relationship.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>If the ENFP cannot give the INTJ the space they need, and if the INTJ cannot make the effort to listen to and understand the thoughts of the ENFP, the relationship will break down.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>By understanding that a certain amount of compromise is necessary, and by being willing to learn and adapt to their partner&#8217;s needs, the INTJ ENFP romantic relationship can endure and grow with every passing year.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Looking to avoid common INTJ relationship pitfalls?<\/strong> Then check out our guide on <a href=\"https:\/\/intjsecrets.com\/blog\/intj-relationship-problems\/\" data-type=\"post\" data-id=\"225\">the most common INTJ relationship problems you need to be aware of<\/a>. <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Let\u2019s face it: dating and relationships can be difficult areas for INTJs. 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