There are some people who make it nearly impossible to tell if they’re in love. INTJs are not like those people. There are plenty of INTJ in love signs to look out for if you’re wondering if someone with our personality types have developed feelings for someone.
People don’t show their affection in the same ways. If you don’t know what another personality type is like, it’s really hard to tell whether they’re just being friendly, if they’re not interested, or if they’re really into you.
That’s why doing some research can go a long way.
Knowing what to look for also helps you avoid making a fool of yourself if you’re trying to get with an INTJ.
These clear INTJ in love signs will help you tell for certain if they’re crushing on someone hard.
1. They include you in future plans
Time is precious to us INTJs. We don’t just plan head for no reason. But since we are major planners, being in those future plans is a major sign we’re into you for real.
The more we set aside time in the future to be with you, the stronger our feelings are.
We’re basically proclaiming our love right then and there.
2. They give you important compliments
These aren’t just your run-of-the-mill compliments. INTJs don’t compliment your looks or give you googly-eyes when you look good.
Instead, we focus on compliments that hold more meaning.
We could potentially compliment your intelligence or your sense of humor. If we truly are in love, we dig deeper and make sure you feel that love through our compliments.
3. They defend you
This is probably one of the best signs of an INTJ in love. Truthfully, INTJs are one of the most loyal personality types.
You really won’t find someone who has your back more than us. And that means we’ll defend you to the ends of the earth if we feel affection for you in any way.
And when we’re in love, nobody can mess with you when we’re around.
4. They initiate contact
This can be both physical or just to talk.
INTJs will take the initiative to text you first or even sit really close so you’re at least touching. And when we’re in love, you can sit back and let us make the first moves.
If there’s a special INTJ in your life and you’ve noticed they’re usually first to talk or touch you, they like you.
5. They make your surroundings better
We just are about your quality of life all-around.
Which means an INTJ will go out of their way to improve your surroundings. Whether that’s sprucing up your office at work or cleaning your place when you’re busy, it means the same thing.
They love you and want you to have the best quality of life.
6. They’d rather be with you than alone
As an introverted personality type, this one is huge.
Not many introverts would rather be with people compared to being alone. That’s just the way introverted people work.
But with an INTJ, they’d rather spend their free time with you versus being alone.
When we’re in love, you become a part of us in a way. So being alone can be worse than spending that time with you.
7. They’ll try to help you achieve your goals
This is a perfect sign that an INTJ is into you if you’re not already sure.
They’ll assist in your goals and dreams. Those meaningful things in your life become meaningful to them.
Pay attention to whether or not they’re supporting those major parts of your life and you’ll know how they feel.
8. They’ll take initiative to get to know you
They’re the ones asking all the questions.
INTJs want to make sure you both have potential together. For this reason, they’ll want to know everything they can about you.
You’ll find that they’ll ask so many questions you may feel as though it’s more of an interview than it is a date.
This is a good thing and means they like you.
9. They care about the things you do
Basically, an INTJ will learn about issues that are important to you and make an effort to care about them too. They may often go out of their way to help you with them.
When INTJs care, they care deeply. Which means if you have any cause you feel strongly about, they’ll become a part of it.
It’s another way to show their support and how much they like and even love you.
10. They try to help you with anything you’re doing
This is less about your goals and dreams and more about your everyday life.
INTJs tend to take over projects so they can be done correctly – in their mind. And if an INTJ is into you, they’ll want only the best for you.
That means they might show up and help you clean up or build that bookshelf you’ve been struggling with.
It’s all in an effort to show how much they care.
11. They tend to be wherever you are
Most INTJs will deny they do this, but we totally do. You know an INTJ is in love if they’re “randomly” showing up in places when they probably know you are there.
They just want to spend more time with you and even get a look at you in your natural environment.
12. They dress to impress.
INTJs aren’t super materialistic people by nature. We just don’t really mind going natural most of the time.
However, if an INTJ loves you, they’ll dress up and do their makeup and make an effort to impress you in any way they can.
It’s all about catching your eye and making you see them.
13. They tell you
The great thing about INTJs in love is that they don’t try to hide it.
They’re very open about their feelings and if they’re certain about how they feel for you, it’ll be made very obvious to the point that they’ll probably just come out and tell you.
INTJs may seem mysterious, cold, and calculating but, in fact, they’re pretty easy to read if you know what to look for. These INTJ in love signs will help you figure out what they’re feeling.
P.S. I’ve read a lot of books and taken a lot of courses, but the one thing that has helped me the most is the INTJ Starter Kit by Personality Hacker. If you’re an INTJ who is tired of general self-improvement advice and who wants specific, tailor-made suggestions on how to optimize your life, you should check it out.