When it comes to romantic relationships, there’s nothing quite like an ENFP. But you don’t need me to tell you the hardest part is knowing how to tell if an ENFP likes you.
Normally, you might not read too much into the way they act around you. But when it comes to finding love, being able to read all the signs will help you figure out how to tell if an ENFP likes you and make a move of your own.
Understanding ENFP Personality Type
These types of people are among some of the most interesting simply because they embody extrovert, intuitive, feeling, and perceiving. That combination makes for a unique person and, understandably, an appealing one.
This personality type has extroverted intuition, introverted feeling, extroverted thinking, and introverted sensing. Therefore, it’s really hard to determine just how they’re feeling even though they’ll always be the ones to speak to what they’re thinking about.
How to Tell if an ENFP Likes You
They’re pretty tricky creatures to read. But if you know the signs and are aware of the signals that point to having more than friendly feelings toward you, it’ll be easier to spot. Here’s how to tell if an ENFP likes you enough to pursue a relationship.
1. They can talk to you easily and talk to you first
ENFPs are not shy when it comes to conversation and if they like you, they’ll come right up and start chatting right away. They won’t make general small talk, though, not if they actually like you. They strive on that conversation and want to discuss interesting, abstract, and creative subjects with those they like most.
So if you’re the first person an ENFP talks to and you have a more meaningful conversation, chances are, they’re into you.
2. They’ll flirt openly
This personality type is known to be a little flirty. It has a lot to do with the fact that they like conversation and making others laugh. If they like you most, however, they’ll try to flirt with you a lot.
They’ll make a point to smile, move in closer, and even touch you, provided you seem comfortable enough for them to do so. So if they’re wiggling their eyebrows and scooting in closer, they like you.
3. They’ll ask personal questions
ENFPs always make a point to connect with people they’re interested in. It really won’t be difficult to tell if they’re trying to get to know you better.
They’ll probably be the ones who dig in a little deeper when you answer a question. They’ll want to know the details, why you love something so much, and just what you’re going to do with your life. ENFPs are all about knowing more about those they like a lot.
4. They’ll start cracking jokes
This personality type is pretty well known for cracking jokes and making people laugh, but they’ll go the extra mile if they like you. They’ll try to not only make you laugh, but get you joking with them. If an ENFP likes you, they might just make you the butt of their jokes too, in a good way.
5. They’ll laugh a lot
They’re just fun-loving people. The more an ENFP laughs around you and tries to have a good time, the more they like you. It’s all about getting you to loosen up and have some fun so, in turn, they’ll laugh a lot to get you there.
6. They’ll compliment you
This personality type isn’t exactly shy when it comes to compliments, especially if they really like you. They’ll definitely compliment your looks, but they’ll also go so far as to compliment the more important things like your personality and sense of humor. They’ll always dig a little deeper if they like you.
7. When you come around, they flock to you
It’s like they can’t help themselves. As an INTJ, you’re kind of like a magnet to them and they can’t help but wander over to you when they see you. Pay attention to when you enter a gathering where an ENFP is. If they end up next to you, they definitely like you.
8. They’ll try to show off
ENFPs are notorious for trying to make themselves look better around those they like. They’ll go out of their way to do something extra special just so you can see. This personality type will also boast about themselves and get you to see how great they are.
9. They’ll try to steal your attention
Really, ENFPs are attention hogs. If they like you, they’ll want all your attention. This isn’t done in a bad or annoying way, either. You’ll genuinely be all eyes on them. If they like you, they’ll find ways to make you want to pay attention to them.
A lot of that has to do with conversation. They’ll want you to keep your eyes on them so they’ll either joke, talk about something deep and meaningful, or just find ways to capture your mind and not just your eyes.
10. They’ll try to get one-on-one time
Really, the ENFP wants to be your only friend. If they like you, they’ll try to get you by yourself so they can use up all of your time. It’s their way of showing you that you’re not only special, but they would rather be talking to you than with anyone else.
Plus, when you’re alone, they can really engage in more meaningful conversation that’s fulfilling on both of your ends. ENFPs will find a way to sweep you away from a crowd and you really won’t even notice it.
One minute you’ll be in a group of people and the next, you’re completely alone with that ENFP that like you. Of course, being an INTJ, you’ll like to get away from the crowd and engage in some meaningful conversation.
ENFPs are like puppy dogs. They’ll follow you around, get excited when you’re near, and just want your attention when they like you. Knowing how to tell if an ENFP likes you is all about paying attention to their body language and the way they treat you.
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